Monday, February 23, 2009

.love is blind.

so on facebook, me and my goon Nikki have started a group protesting the whole friends with benefits thing, and it's truly bothering me! i've spoken to different people about the topic and i've heard two different things.

first i hear, well girls don't know what they want and they don't say that they want a man.- my response to that is, 7 out of 10 times the female states that she's just cool with being friends with the guy she's digging, because she's settling. dudes don't have to try at all nowadays so it's like you have to say that you don't want a man so that you can still kick it with the guy. and what really bothers me is the fact that guys fail to realize that over time people's feelings change. if you are consistently the only guy that she's getting jiggy with, then she's bound to have feelings that are stronger that when it was initiated. the fact that people can just not care and disconnect feelings is amazing.

and then i hear that that guys are just doing it because they don't want to try. they don't have to put in any effort when having the whole FWB [friend with benefits]. it's like the guy doesn't have to take you on dates, buy you things, do the whole valentine's day because at the end of the day you aren't special enough in his life. you are strictly his friend and he's not catching any feelings for you. that's insane! and it's like well if you aren't going to give it up to me, then she will.

i just think the whole friends with benefits thing just needs to stop. what are doing to ourselves? we are just ripping feelings apart with no remorse or concern. what kind of world are we making for our children to grow up in? i feel like in our society, especially the society of my peers, it's going to be more baby momma's and baby daddy's rather than husbands and wives. and that's sad. and it's all because noone wants a relationship, that responsibility anymore.

i've been in the whole friends with benefits thing and it's not fun. i don't ever want to do that again.

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