.a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets.

.double standards. part one.
`sex.

.why is ok that guys can think about sex and what sex all the time but it's OD ; way too much ; unladylike when a female thinks the same things that men do. why does it have to be an issue? why can't a female want sex just as much or even more than a man? why does she have to be wrong for that? i mean i'm not talking about the about the whores that like to be sexed up all openly, i'm simply talking about the females that enjoy getting jiggy and everything about it. why is it wrong that she wants what she desires at a different rate than another woman? why must that other woman be a judge? i mean you can't help that the other woman enjoys sex more than you do. what if she is better at sex than you are or sees sex as an action that pleases her man, if she loves to please, then it's something she wants regularly? i really don't get it. women are all about stopping the double standards yet they don't. they are still judging other females for their decisions sexually.

.all my women, who's independent!.

.now I'm all about being independent. I've written about it before and I'm very independent myself. I do things on my own, take on responsibilities, I'm not afraid to venture off and most importantly I'm not afraid to be alone and take care of myself.

.However...

.There are many females who have the whole "I don't need a man" mentality and I can dig it from a small stand point. Yeah I don't need a man at the end of the day because I know how to survive without one. The man is supposed to be the sole provider, the caretaker and all that but see my dad wasn't around like that and look how far I've come. So I know its possible without a man. However -there's that word again- women were made for men. We were made to be companions, counterparts, that piece to the puzzle. How can you say you don't need a man? How will you be complete?

Miss Independent all the way, who will hold you when you are down and out, who will make you feel beautiful on the days your mind lies to you? Who will hold you in the middle of the night? Who will be that joy you look forward to seeing? Who will be that face that always makes your heart smile
?

Loneliness is a terrible company to keep.

Isn't it Miss Independent?

.the girls are talking.

.so is it just me? or am i even like this?

.i pay a lot of attention to the small details that people have about them. i peep the things that most people wouldn't think that i should see, or saw. and lately i've been paying attention to a lot of females and what they say and how they think. i really can't grasp the concept of talking about another female, calling her ugly, and all these other names. i mean forreal forreal, who made you Queen Bee of this hive of life? like forreal? i mean people are entitled to their own opinions and that's perfectly fine, but females are constantly judging eachother. there's always a comment about how this girl looks or how that girl dresses. i mean forreal that just displays ugliness. and real talk, who are we to determine what's acceptable or pretty? i don't even think that there is a set definition for pretty. i mean yea you can look it up and it means [pretty-having conventionally accepted elements of beauty] but there is no concrete definition that describes to the TEE what you are supposed to possess to be "pretty". i don't understand that about females. why are we so negative towards eachother? that's just awful. it doesn't make sense and it's truly uncalled for. why are you taking the time out to discuss that about someone? what's wrong with you? do you deep down have to feel a certain way or say things like that to boost yourself up? smh.

.being a female is a wonderful and beautiful thing, but it's things such as that, that we display, that makes me feel like ugh. because deep down, i know that someone is out there judging and laughing at me just like the people that i know do. evil. it's all pretty evil. i know i don't possess such qualities, but i have fallen short and made comments. i just hope to get that wackness out of me. ya know? cool.

.love is blind.

so on facebook, me and my goon Nikki have started a group protesting the whole friends with benefits thing, and it's truly bothering me! i've spoken to different people about the topic and i've heard two different things.

first i hear, well girls don't know what they want and they don't say that they want a man.- my response to that is, 7 out of 10 times the female states that she's just cool with being friends with the guy she's digging, because she's settling. dudes don't have to try at all nowadays so it's like you have to say that you don't want a man so that you can still kick it with the guy. and what really bothers me is the fact that guys fail to realize that over time people's feelings change. if you are consistently the only guy that she's getting jiggy with, then she's bound to have feelings that are stronger that when it was initiated. the fact that people can just not care and disconnect feelings is amazing.

and then i hear that that guys are just doing it because they don't want to try. they don't have to put in any effort when having the whole FWB [friend with benefits]. it's like the guy doesn't have to take you on dates, buy you things, do the whole valentine's day because at the end of the day you aren't special enough in his life. you are strictly his friend and he's not catching any feelings for you. that's insane! and it's like well if you aren't going to give it up to me, then she will.

i just think the whole friends with benefits thing just needs to stop. what are doing to ourselves? we are just ripping feelings apart with no remorse or concern. what kind of world are we making for our children to grow up in? i feel like in our society, especially the society of my peers, it's going to be more baby momma's and baby daddy's rather than husbands and wives. and that's sad. and it's all because noone wants a relationship, that responsibility anymore.

i've been in the whole friends with benefits thing and it's not fun. i don't ever want to do that again.

.single, sexy and free.

.so the other night i was at this little get together and it was definitely something that i'm not used to lol but it was liberating. i felt comfortable in my own skin and i loved watching everyone around me feel the same and it made me think about my next posts. so many females hate on other females that are content with their lives and lovek themselves. i just went to a lingerie party and some of the most prettiest girls or girls with the nicest bodies were there, and i saw them for what they really look like and i'm not hating at all, but it made me realize that everyone has their flaws. it may not be physically, it may be mentally or even personality wise, but it's still a flaw. and seeing that really made me appreciate alll of my bombness.

.i just wanted to shout out all of the ladies who just don't care and walk around with stretch marks and celulite and just let it all hang out, but with their heads high. that's bomb to me. like kudos forreal. i think that's what guys think are sexy. walking around knowing that you got it and noone can take that from you. and it's ashame that females hate on others. just listening to females talk about others makes me sick. just appreciate what you have and be happy for one another. i have this friend who is INDIAN MEANING FROM INDIA! and he was telling me that they don't pay attention to every detail as we do in america. we live in the best country yet the meanest. it's truly amazing. i just wanted to say hold your head up booboo and keep doing you, cuz imma do meeeee!

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