.do you have a go to friend whom you tell all your problems to including problems with friends?
`the issue that i'm leaning towards is only showing the negatives of a person to another person.
you're friends with friend 1 and friend 2. you are the mutual friend between the two. whenever you have an issue with friend 1, you go to friend 2 to vent about it, hardly ever displaying the positive aspects of the friendship to friend 2. now friend 2 has formed an opinion about friend 1 without even knowing them.
how is that fair? i see this a lot and have personally done this. it's not intentional and i didn't mean to do that. i realized that that was what i was doing and i apologized to my friend for giving her false impression because clearly the person is a good person because i was their friend to begin with. i just think that it's not fair to the person who is just being shown in a negative light. everyone could all be cordial to each other but one of the friends will already have a biased opinion.
`idk. i hope i made that understandable. it's just something that's been on my mind. someone has done that to me and i don't like the feeling. but oh well. if people want to make judgments and have feelings about me and they don't even know me, then oh well.