.do you have a go to friend whom you tell all your problems to including problems with friends?
`the issue that i'm leaning towards is only showing the negatives of a person to another person.
you're friends with friend 1 and friend 2. you are the mutual friend between the two. whenever you have an issue with friend 1, you go to friend 2 to vent about it, hardly ever displaying the positive aspects of the friendship to friend 2. now friend 2 has formed an opinion about friend 1 without even knowing them.
how is that fair? i see this a lot and have personally done this. it's not intentional and i didn't mean to do that. i realized that that was what i was doing and i apologized to my friend for giving her false impression because clearly the person is a good person because i was their friend to begin with. i just think that it's not fair to the person who is just being shown in a negative light. everyone could all be cordial to each other but one of the friends will already have a biased opinion.
`idk. i hope i made that understandable. it's just something that's been on my mind. someone has done that to me and i don't like the feeling. but oh well. if people want to make judgments and have feelings about me and they don't even know me, then oh well.
i think as in any group of "friends" esp. girls this happens so dont swear because everybody talks...but i understand how you feel...i know you feel guilty and maybe it is not a good thing to speak neg. on anybody but sometimes the truth is ugly...it is just that you recognize it and you want to see if nebody else does so you wont think you the one thats crazy...lol
*so dont sweat it
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